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Mind Spirit

Tell me a story

Today has been a good day.  I got a lot accomplished, and now, I’m ready for sleep. Thankfully, a friend just called to remind me that he can’t wind down at the end of his day unless he has the chance to read my daily post.  I don’t think I’ve ever had followers before, but it’s kind of a nice feeling.

So, here’s a little story to think about when you’re drifting off to sleep tonight.  It is the story about a Native American boy who is talking with his grandfather:

“What do you think about the world situation?” the young boy asked.

The grandfather replied, “I feel like wolves are fighting in my heart.  One is full of anger and hatred; the other is full of love, forgiveness, and peace.”

“Which one will win?” asked the boy.

To which the grandfather replied, “the one I feed.”

The point of the story is that, in life, you become what you think about. Bouna notte dolce sogni.

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Gardening Travel

Try Something New

Last year around this time, some of my family and I had the chance to visit Virginia Robinson Gardens in Beverly Hills.  Although we had never heard of the place before, its not too far away from Glendale, tucked into one of the canyons just up from Beverly Drive.  Mrs. Robinson was the heiress to the JW Robinson department store fortune, and she lived the high life.  Touring around the beautiful grounds, there was no doubt the place was built for parties.  From the stories the docent told us, I doubt if anyone in her circle of friends ever had a day job.  It must have been fun, but I think it would have gotten boring after awhile.

Well, the reason I wanted to write about our little  garden tour is because its planting time just about everywhere.  There are public gardens all over the country.  Take some time over the next couple of weeks and visit one.  They usually have some interesting and unusual plant you’ve never seen before.  Or maybe you’ll come upon an interesting design.  If you see something you like, write the name down, or draw a sketch of the layout.

At Robinson Gardens, I found this little urn of succulents interesting:

Then, when you get home, do a little research on line about the plants you liked, then track them down.  There are lots of on-line resources today, and two that I like are Bluestone Perennials and Whiteflower Farms.

Here’s how I interpreted the urn of succulents above for my own garden:

The gray and black scheme worked great at Robinson Gardens, but I’m a color person, so I took the concept I saw, came home and made it my own.  Now, I know not everyone is going to be that ambitious.  No problem.  Just make a trip to Lowes or Home Depot, or better yet, a local independent nursery.  It’s always nice to help the little guy, and right about now, they really need the help.  

Get a few market packs, get them into the ground with a little fertilizer, and then look forward to a summer of brilliant color.  Or maybe the cool monochrome of the urn above from the Robinson Gardens might be just the thing for you.  Either way, try something new and have fun.

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Inspiration Mind Prayer

Why Can’t We Stop It?

I generally try to stay out of politics.  Everyone has an opinion, and they’re entitled to them.  It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that things are in a real mess, with no end in sight.

But, for the life of me, I simply can’t understand how the politicians can’t get their act together and resolve this oil spill in the Gulf Coast.  At this point, weeks after it began, who really cares exactly who is to blame and what went wrong?  They’re going to figure that out in the courts anyway, probably for decades to come.

This is such a catastrophe, it seems to me that we should be putting everything we’ve got on this.  Why is it important that the evening news shows tape from a congressional hearing today showing newly released video of oil and gas gushing out of the pipe?  Doesn’t the entire world already know that’s happening?

Maybe the politicians are too afraid that, if they did take over the task of resolving this crisis, somehow a part of the blame will fall on them.  In the meantime, the oil continues to gush up, at the rate of something like 70,000 barrels a day, according to one estimate.

If there was any issue we could come together and resolve, you would think this would be it.

Will the real leaders please step up soon?

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Ignatian Spirituality Mind

Cut and Dried?

In my neck of the woods, I’m guessing the farmers will be planting corn in the next few weeks.  It must be harvest time somewhere not too far from here, though, because I saw ears of corn for 18 cents a piece today at the store.  Now, I’m sure you’re asking the question, “why is he talking about corn?”  Good question, and it just so happens I have a good answer 🙂

I took this story about making decisions from a book entitled Close To The Heart, written by Margaret Silf.  It’s a nice little book on prayer.

A farmer friend told me one day that according to an old tradition, the cut corn at harvest time was supposed to lie in the fields to dry until the church bells had rung across it three times, that is, three Sundays.

As my friend gave me this piece of wisdom, the phrase cut and dry came to my mind.  It made me wonder about my own was of discerning things and making decisions.  I saw that my decisions and so-called discernments usually get cut and gathered on the same day, with no time for maturing- so sure am I of my own judgments.  

But the habit of reflection can make a difference.  It can slow us down just long enough to make a short space of time after prayer “for the corn to dry” before we rush off to meet the demands of the day.  It provides an opportunity to let our own feelings about our prayer time come to the surface- a chance to stand back and notice how the time has been, gathering any fruits of that time that come to mind.  It may be all we need to ensure that our prayer is not only cut but dried as well, so that it has time and space to mature and become more fully a part of our lives.

Just yesterday, I was speaking to a friend about a situation he found himself in.  He needed to take care of some issues, and as we talked, it became clear to both of us that he needed to take his time and not rush things.  Do you share with me the experience of realizing that so many mistakes in life are made when we make decisions too quickly, not thinking of all the consequences of our choices?

Now I know where the old saying about something being cut and dry comes from.  I’m planning on using it a bit more often.

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Gardening Spirit

Soul Gardening

This is my first rose of the season, and she’s a beauty.  This David Austin rose is Crown Princess Margareta,  named after one of the grand daughters of Queen Victoria.  I have a small rose garden at my house, nothing compared to the big bed my mother still tends.  My mom’s favorite flower is the rose, and she’s instilled that love on most of her children.  But roses are finicky, and they require a lot of love.  As this photo shows, they are worth the effort.

Over the past few years, I’ve read a book several times over.  The book was written by Terry Hershey, and the title is Soul Gardening.  It’s a short read, but packed with lots and lots of comparisons between how caring for our soul is similar to the tending of a garden.  Hershey talks about cultivating appreciation for the ordinary gifts of grace as you would a bed of shasta daisies.  He asks us to focus on the value of solitude, calling the reader to venture to some random corner of their garden and just sit back and enjoy the breeze, the smells, the beauty.  Finally Hershey reminds us that nature can heal.  

When we work on our gardens, we can, in some sense, make the connection for caring for our souls.  A beautiful garden and a peaceful soul take a lot of work.  It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it in the end.  According to the back cover,  the stories in the book will lead you to nurture your soul and renew your sense of what it means to live the “good life.”

In this fast paced world  we live in, its hard to have a nice garden.  It takes patience and vision to see a plant in the winter, sitting in the snow, with no life apparent.  When I called to tell my mother that my roses were buried under thirty inches of snow, she told me that hers were already leafing out in sunny California.  It took a lot to envision the flower above on that winter day, but here it is.  

If you’re not a gardener, have no fear.  Just take a walk around your neighborhood.  You can enjoy the fruits of someone else’s dreams and labors.  If you see something that strikes you, ask the person who owns the garden about it.  We gardeners love to share knowledge (and plants).  

The moral of this story is that souls need tending too.  We shouldn’t be afraid to take a look inside, to see what might need to be pruned, or fertilized, and cut out all together.  Sometimes the most painful cuts produce the most fruit.    A rose bush that goes unpruned will not bear the most beautiful flowers.  

Take some time this week and take a walk or drive around your neighborhood.  No matter where you live, I’m sure its going to be a beautiful some day or other. Enjoy the show.   Be grateful for the eyes to see it.

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Ignatian Spirituality Mind Spirit

Spring Cleaning

It took me awhile to find a picture of an office that looked worse than mine.  Well, here it is.  Luckily, mine wasn’t that bad, but it was getting there.  It is truly amazing how quickly the junk piles up.  Although I have my own office, it’s pretty small, and during the year, when I’m running programs for hundreds of people out of it, well, I get buried.

A few weeks ago, I really started getting frustrated with myself for letting it get this bad.  I couldn’t find some things that I needed, and it took way too long to locate them.  I decided that once classes were over, I’d get to cracking.  Classes ended Thursday.

Unfortunately, today was an absolutely beautiful day here in Maryland.  But, I made a commitment to myself, so around 9:00 this morning, I began.  I didn’t finish up until about 6 pm, and there’s more to do.  But, it felt fantastic to throw so much unneeded stuff into the recycling dumpster behind our building.

I don’t know why I kept so much outdated material. I guess it has to do with our culture.  We keep thinking we’re going to have time to read this or that article or book, but the time never comes.  The “when I have the chance” pile gets out of control.  Maybe you’ve been there too?

They say that if you haven’t touched something for six months, you should throw it out.  I think that’s going to be my new rule, except I want to expand it for the school year, so I’m going to give myself an extra three months.  Going forward, I’m going to stand near a recycling bin when I look through my mail.  I’ll keep only the most important things.

As I was cleaning, I had an interesting thought.  I wonder if we keep things around to trick us into believing that things are what they represent.  For instance, I had a picture one of the kids in Life Teen years ago, taken on a trip to Arizona.  It was in this funny little teepee frame, and I think I kept it up on the shelf because of the frame.  Well, there it sat, collecting dust.  Ben has long since graduated from college and is now working for his dad in the plumbing business.  I can remember that trip without the picture, thanks very much.  The funny thing is, I have a far more meaningful group shot taken on the same trip.  Ben’s teepee went into the trash and up when the group shot.

One is enough.  That’s going to be a new motto for me.  It seems like we have to have more and more to make us feel happy, but in some sense, doesn’t having all these things leave us even more frustrated and wanting more?

Even though I didn’t finish, I was pretty happy with myself when I walked out of the office.  I’m going to be even happier when I get everything done tomorrow.

In the next several weeks, I’m going to have a new employee starting.  I’m still not sure the person we’re going to select, but I’m already looking forward to meeting with him/her in my nice, clean, and organized office.

I’m moving ahead, focusing on the here and now, not so much about the past.  I don’t need to keep all the old stuff around.  Certain precious things, yes, by all means.  Ten year old forms, books and magazines that I’ll never look at, no thanks.  Off to be recycled into something better.

Don’t you just feel good thinking about it?

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Catholic Church Ignatian Spirituality Mind Spirit

Patient Trust

A funny thing happened last night.  Someone actually called me wanting to know when I was going to post my blog entry.  I would have never guessed that I’d now start getting pressure about the speed of my postings. I thought blogging was supposed to be relaxing and good therapy 🙂

Actually, that call, plus speaking to someone else today, just excites me more about this use of communication.  There’s a lot to learn, and it takes quite a bit of time, but I love it.  Thank you to everyone who has been following.

Now that most of my responsibilities at work will be much less pressing, I’m going to take a few afternoons off in the next couple of weeks and improve the way Making All Things New looks.  I want to get many more recipes up.  I want to make things clearer and more easily found.

I also want to ask you all a favor.  Please post comments!  One of my goals with this blog is to get people talking.  We should all be helping each other, not just hearing from me.

The other night, a friend from California wrote me an email about how much this blog is helping her.  Interestingly, I’ve never met her.  We know each other from taking an on-line certification program through the University of Dayton.  The courses are meant to help us understand how churches can do a better job teaching our faith to adults.  We’re just finishing the second of many courses.  Ugh.

When I was praying about making this dive into social communication, I was dreaming about what it might become.  It’s been a bit overwhelming, actually.  To think that people are waiting to receive a message from me is pretty amazing.  I’m going to guess it’s more about the boredom in this guy’s life than it is my lofty thoughts 🙂   (just kidding.  He’s busier than me).

Before I get back to my on-line course, I want to leave you with a thought entitled Patient Trust, written by Pierre Teilhard de Chardin (1881-1955),

Above all, trust in the slow work of God.

We are quite naturally impatient in everything

to reach the end without delay.

We should like to skip the intermediate stages.

We are impatient of being on the way to something

unknown, something new.

And yet it is the law of all progress

that it is made by passing through

some stages of instability-

and that may take a very long time.

And so I think it is with you;

your ideas mature gradually- let them grow,

let them shape themselves, without undue haste.

Don’t try and force them on,

as though you could be today what time

(that is to say, grace and circumstances

acting on your own good will)

will make of you tomorrow.

Only God could say what this new spirit

gradually forming within you will be.

Give our Lord the benefit of believing

that his hand is leading you,

and accept the anxiety of feeling yourself

in suspense and incomplete.

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It’s Over… Or Is It?

Two big things finished up for me today.  First, I “officially” completed the Spiritual Exercises of St. Ignatius.  This 40 + week spiritual adventure was a life-changer, and the perfect companion to my physical transformation.

I guess in some sense these kinds of things never really end.  Maybe a good way to look at it is like a book series.  The latest book begins where the previous one left off.  I’m looking forward to seeing how my own personal sequel turns out.  I’ll let you know 🙂

I gathered with some friends for a discussion about the experience, had some great prayer time, and finally, a little brunch.  All in all, a great way to mark the conclusion of this leg of my journey.

The other thing that wrapped up today was our religious ed. year.  1,100 students are now ready to move on to the next level.  We’re already taking registrations for next year.  In a lot of ways, it’s been a long and hard year.  The level of frustration on the part of many people is more and more evident.  No doubt this is caused by the difficulties our country finds itself in.  It seemed like we were easy targets. It doesn’t appear as though things are going to get better any time soon, so we’re trying to respond as best we can.

We’ve been thinking of ways how we can make things easier for people.  Fewer meetings, fewer forms, fewer hoops to jump through.  I think people will be happy about  the changes we make, but, well, you can’t please everyone.    That’s not going to stop us from trying!  It shouldn’t stop you either…

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Catholic Church Italy Travel

Tuscany Pt. II

At church on Sunday, a young man I’ve known for many years came up to talk with me.  Seth had just returned from a semester in Florence.  We had talked excitedly before his trip. I love to tell people about some of the more obscure places to visit when they’re in Tuscany. Florence is filled with them.

Seth lived and took his classes in the center of Florence near Santa Croce. Built in 1294, this great Gothic church is where you’ll find the tombs of Michelangelo  and Galileo.   The piazza in front is where you can buy inexpensive watercolors, leathergoods, and way too much touristy junk.

An area of Florence I like to hang out in is called, Oltrarno, which means “over the Arno.”  At one time, you were considered inferior if you lived on this side of the Arno, because it meant that you couldn’t afford to live in a big palazzo in the city center.

All that changed when the Medici family decided to jump over and build a massive palace in 1550.  They ruled Florence from the Palazzo Pitti for the next 300 years.

When I’m in Florence, Oltrarno is one of the first places I venture to.  After crossing the Arno by way of the Ponte Vecchio, where gold merchants have been selling their wares for centuries, you make a right and follow a small street which runs parallel to the river.  My family and I love to visit a little art gallery on this street. Years ago, when the dollar was very strong against the Lira, we bought some paintings there.  Now, I can’t imagine paying the prices that hang on the tickets.

So, instead of buying paintings, I walk down a few buildings and enter a little tiny shop where all the lady sells is gift wrap.  Now, this isn’t your usual kind of wrapping paper.  This stuff is hand printed and sold by the sheet.  Mainly geometric designs, the paper is inexpensive and beautiful.  I usually buy about twenty sheets,which can be folded easily and tucked into the suitcase.  On very special occasions, my friends get their present wrapped in one of these special papers.

This side of the Arno is filled with craftspeople making all kinds of beautiful objects.  Restoration studios abound as well, with artisans working on priceless objects from museums.

Obviously, I could go on and on.  I love Florence, and if I were rich, I’d have an apartment here.  It is simply an amazing city that I don’t believe you could ever get bored with.

I asked Seth if he had tried Cinghiale (wild boar). Yes, he had, and loved it.  Good man, Seth.  Unfortunately for him, it was on one of his last days.  Wild Boar has to be marinated and cooked for a long time.  It is one of my favorite Tuscan foods, and I promise you now that I will view eating numerous servings on my next visit as a way to remind myself just how much I gave up when I became a vegetarian 🙂

To finish up, sometimes we tourists can get overwhelmed in a place like Florence.  At first, it’s almost like we’re on some movie studio lot, or at Disney World and we’re seeing imitations of the real thing.  Lots of history was made in Florence, some great, some not so great.

During World War II, bitter fighting took place in the piazzas we sample our gelato.  Partisans were hung from the lamp posts to warn others about the consequences of joining the fight.  The fighting here was bad and street to street.

I learned a lot about all this in a book  entitled War In Val D’Orcia,written by Iris Origo and recommended by Frances Mayes.  I think reading this book helped me to be a better kind of  tourist, one who takes less for granted, realizing how precious is the gift of these experiences.

Somehow, I’m  thinking there are going to be many parts of my Tuscan tale to come….

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Ignatian Spirituality Spirit

Teach Me Your Ways

This prayer, written by Pedro Arrupe, SJ, comes from the book Hearts On Fire: Praying with the Jesuits.  It just seemed fitting today.  Maybe it was meant for you.

Teach me your way of looking at people

as you glanced at Peter after his denial,

as you penetrated the heart of the rich young man

and the hearts of your disciples.

I would like to meet you as you really are,

since your image changes those with whom you

come in contact.

Remember John the Baptist’s first meeting

with you?

And the centurion’s feeling of unworthiness?

And the amazement of all those who saw miracles

and other wonders?

How you impressed your disciples,

the rabble in the Garden of Olives,

Pilate and his wife

and the centurion at the foot of the cross…

I would like to hear and be impressed

by your manner of speaking,

listening, for example, to your discourse in the

synagogue in Capharnaum

or the Sermon on the Mount where your audience

felt you “taught as one who has authority.”